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How Southeast Asia Ruined My Life

April 14, 2014 · By Vincent Nguyen · 37 Comments

How Southeast Asia Ruined My Life

Southeast Asia, I hate you. I’ve been here for only five months and you’ve RUINED me.

First of all, I haven’t had to do dishes or cook my own food since I got here. Having a maid who cooks on a daily basis means I don’t have to. On her days off, she leaves food in the fridge for me to nuke in the microwave. I’ve hardly lifted a finger since I landed here.

I’m losing my self-sufficiency! I just got my own place last week and I had to… I had to… Cook and wash dishes… The horror! That’s not enough for you? Well, I even had to go grocery shopping and stock my fridge for the week.

It’s okay though, because a new maid is incoming tomorrow, but damn it, what would I do without one? The time it takes to prepare food, clean dishes, buy more food, etc. all eat up time I could use to work. You’ve spoiled me well, Asia.

Second, there are just so many smart people here. They have decades of experience over me so both business and life advice are flowing everywhere and jumpstarting my growth.

I love my friends back home to death, but wow, the level of discussions over here is hard to measure up to. I don’t think I could be learning this much from anywhere else (at least not at home.)

How am I supposed to live in a place that’s lacking all of this now? You’ve spoiled me again.

And third, you’ve taken me from my family. How dare you pull me across the ocean and onto a tropical island?

Sure, back home I often fought with my family, reluctantly attended college, and had to deal with daily drama… Wait, actually, thanks for bringing me away from all that. Uh, I mean, damn you Asia!

Okay. Fine. You win. I admit that I freaking love it here. I absolutely adore the people I hang out with, the people I work for, and just about every citizen I’ve met so far (except for the jerk at the gym and Mr. I Passively Aggressively Turn Off Your Lights While You’re Working Until You Talk to the Manager Downstairs.)

As much as my friends and I like to complain about the small inconveniences of daily life, the hassles of living here are well worth the benefits.

I can’t lie, there isn’t any other place I’d rather be right now. For me, Southeast Asia – more specifically the Philippines – is my home. You’ve ruined my life by making it so much better.

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  1. Damian Thompson says

    April 14, 2014 at 10:50 am

    It’ll do that to ya. I came here for 3 months in April 2011 and never left… 🙂

    Reply
    • Vincent Nguyen says

      April 14, 2014 at 6:48 pm

      I wonder how long my original 6-months plan will turn into. 😛

      Reply
  2. Guill says

    April 14, 2014 at 7:51 pm

    I traveled for a year in Southeast Asia between 2006 and 2007. I went back to France for summer, then decided to go back to Asia and find a way to make a living. It’s been 6 years I’m here now. And I still love it.
    I’m planning to get a pied-a-terre one day in France but not for going back full time. Like you, Asia spoiled me. Things are convenient, cheap, many different people from many different horizons and cultures, lots of interests, foods from everywhere around the world. You can’t beat that! Welcome to a long life here Vincent.

    Reply
    • Vincent Nguyen says

      April 15, 2014 at 1:41 am

      Wow, 6 YEARS?! That makes you a SEAsia veteran. Where are you at nowadays?

      Reply
      • Guill Lo says

        April 15, 2014 at 8:11 pm

        I’m living in Macau now, next to Hong Kong. Way more expensive than the Philippines! But I have a job locally, paying accordingly. Planning to live between Macau/HK and France in the future, so working hard on making my money independent of my location!

        Reply
        • Vincent Nguyen says

          April 15, 2014 at 8:36 pm

          Awesome. Hope you don’t mind I ask what it is that you do?

          Reply
          • Guill says

            April 16, 2014 at 2:35 am

            Currently most of my living is made by designing and developing (mainly) a university management system. I’ve joined the university when it was 5 years old, they had nothing digital at the time and I’ve created the system. There’s still a lot to do, you know, dev&design never stops, but I don’t feel like doing it 8 hours a day anymore, so I’m working on the next step! I’ve launched a free service 2 weeks ago (http://dailycuckoo.com) around psychology. I’m planning to launch a blog, and write books. Rest of the time is sleep, cook, read, write, and traveling to do rock climbing.

            Reply
            • Vincent Nguyen says

              April 16, 2014 at 2:38 am

              I first read that as “I’ve joined the university when I was 5 years old.” Was going to say that’s one hell of a prodigy!

              That’s awesome man. I hope you do well with everything you pursue. I’ll check out your site. 🙂

        • Justin says

          April 15, 2014 at 11:16 pm

          Nice, man! Macao is an interesting city – Vincent should definitely take a trip out there to check out the “Vegas of Asia”.

          As for HK – one of my favorite cities in the world. So much good food, interesting things to do, etc. It’s not exactly cheap, but I LOVE how you can have an amazing experience with dinner at a 5-star restaurant one night and walk right down the street to a food stall the next. (And get a delicious meal as well)

          Reply
          • Vincent Nguyen says

            April 15, 2014 at 11:44 pm

            Heh, Justin’s always trying to get me to leave the nest and explore outside of Davao. 🙂

            Reply
            • Guill says

              April 16, 2014 at 2:38 am

              Yeah Justin is right, you should drop by! You’ll get a free beer (or two) 😉
              HK is excellent too, I love the place. There’s nothing that you can’t find there. There’s tons of things going on and very interesting people. Macau is a village compared to HK, but it’s more relaxed. Although less interesting once you’ve been there for a while.

  3. Jofferson Jones Panos says

    April 14, 2014 at 11:55 pm

    Southeast Asia ruined my life too. Since birth. lol

    Reply
    • Vincent Nguyen says

      April 15, 2014 at 1:42 am

      I hope you mean the good kind of ruin. 😉

      Reply
  4. DonHamilton says

    April 15, 2014 at 1:20 pm

    You wrote a funny article. I can just hear the joy you have.
    Enjoy, enjoy enjoy

    Reply
    • Vincent Nguyen says

      April 15, 2014 at 3:04 pm

      Haha thanks, Don!

      Reply
  5. Devani Anjali Alderson says

    April 15, 2014 at 1:34 pm

    Enjoy the adventures! Great post… Love the humor 😀

    Reply
    • Vincent Nguyen says

      April 15, 2014 at 3:11 pm

      Thanks, Devani! Glad you enjoyed the post!

      Reply
  6. LudvigSunstrom says

    April 15, 2014 at 2:15 pm

    Glad to hear you’re loving it, Vincent!

    Sweet picture. Show some more ones soon.

    Reply
    • Vincent Nguyen says

      April 15, 2014 at 3:11 pm

      Hey! How’s the podcast with Kevin going?

      Reply
      • LudvigSunstrom says

        April 18, 2014 at 8:11 am

        It’s not going much at all right now. But we will get on it soon, we’ve both been rather busy with other things lately.

        Reply
  7. lmccy says

    April 15, 2014 at 2:27 pm

    so happy you are good.

    Reply
    • Vincent Nguyen says

      April 15, 2014 at 3:12 pm

      I am! And how about yourself?

      Reply
  8. Sara says

    April 15, 2014 at 7:49 pm

    Sounds like an awesome experience! I feel happy reading the post!

    Reply
    • Vincent Nguyen says

      April 15, 2014 at 8:36 pm

      Now that’s exactly what I want to hear! 🙂

      Reply
  9. Rob Leonardo says

    April 16, 2014 at 2:25 am

    You live like a king! I had my share of prince living way back when we were younger (like 5) when we had a helper and nannies. That’s over. We grew up having to wash our clothes and clean up the house. You’re lifestyle is pretty much an expat’s and not like a local. 😛 You will probably want to try that in the future. It’s not really boring, it’s the same thing you used to do in the US but less convenient.

    Reply
    • Vincent Nguyen says

      April 16, 2014 at 2:28 am

      I know it’s not the norm and I try to remind myself to be grateful. I do take it for granted more often than not though…

      What should I try out in the future?

      Reply
  10. Davis Nguyen says

    April 16, 2014 at 7:46 pm

    Haha very lovely.

    Reply
    • Vincent Nguyen says

      April 17, 2014 at 7:44 am

      Why thank you. 😛

      Reply
  11. Jon Espina says

    April 18, 2014 at 12:57 am

    I am just happy to know that you’re enjoying your stay in Davao. And you’re calling Philippines your home? that’s really nice! 🙂

    Davao is such a calm and beautiful place. It’s a peaceful city surrounded by the beauties of nature. Can’t wait to go back.

    Keep rocking Vincent!

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    • Vincent Nguyen says

      April 18, 2014 at 12:59 am

      I think I’ve been calling it home for months now! I know I like to poke fun at the Philippines, but of course, I wouldn’t still be here if I didn’t love it. 🙂

      Remember to let me know when you’re here!

      Reply
      • Jon Espina says

        April 26, 2014 at 10:52 am

        Cool! 🙂 sure I’ll let you know. Salamat!

        Reply
  12. Lea Bullen says

    April 19, 2014 at 9:55 am

    Pretty funny post. Glad you’re enjoying your time there.

    I haven’t been to Asia in years. I kind of miss it. I would definitely go back though.

    ~Lea

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    • Vincent Nguyen says

      May 3, 2014 at 6:39 pm

      Sounds like it’s time for you to book a flight! 🙂

      Reply
  13. Mads Singers says

    May 3, 2014 at 4:46 pm

    Yo buddy, I’m happy you love it so much, I cant wait to get back there!

    Reply
    • Vincent Nguyen says

      May 3, 2014 at 6:40 pm

      Yeah, dude! Have you heard the news though? Bunch of people are leaving town to have a taste of some of that nomadic lifestyle. 🙁

      Reply
  14. Sarah Williams says

    May 27, 2014 at 9:06 am

    Great title 🙂 I have been to Thailand this year. I’m really amazed by the beauty and what’s you called ‘decades of experience’.

    Reply
    • Vincent Nguyen says

      May 27, 2014 at 5:04 pm

      I’m headed to Bangkok in October! Hopefully the whole situation over there gets smoothed out by then. 🙂

      Reply

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