Imagine you meet a smug person who walks around like everything he does is worthy of being on the front cover of magazines.
Picture this person is overly cocky, thinks everything he touches turns into gold, and believes himself to be the best, for extra effect.
Does that sound like a fun person to be around?
Of course not, because he’s most likely condescending and difficult to get along with because he’s more interested in bragging and talking about himself than getting to know you.
Oh come on. Be honest, you’re totally thinking of someone you know.
How much do you like that person? Would you describe that person as being fun? Caring? Selfless?
Now contrast that person with someone who has interesting things going on in his life but doesn’t brag about it. He’s humble and cool, when someone compliments him on his accomplishments, he says thank you but doesn’t let it feed his ego and doesn’t try to milk the subject for more.
The second person sounds like a lot more fun to hang out with. The first sounds like someone you wouldn’t enjoy more than two minutes with.
Being humble is something I’m still struggling with to this day. I love talking about myself and enjoy external validation (as most of us do).
Yet, it always feels dirty bragging. It rarely feels good and almost never flies under the radar.
So why do we do it? Just to prove to ourselves for a second that we’re awesome? To make others think we’re interesting?
Never once have I ever seen someone brag and then immediately think to myself, “Jesus Christ, this person’s great!”
But you know what type of people impress me all the time? People who are clearly leading interesting lives (without having to tell me just how great they are) and seem unfazed by what people think of them.
Aim for humble. People can determine how interesting you are without you explicitly talking about it.