Think about how well you truly know people in your life.
Do you know what they do for fun? What they do for work? How they behave when they’re alone vs. with other people? Do you understand their goals and ambitions?
Let’s quickly shift to my mother’s side of the family’s perspective on me and who they I think am:
They’re concerned that I’m not getting a college degree.
They think I’ll end up starved on the street.
They wonder why I haven’t already settled down into a long-term relationship.
They believe I value money over education (I do, but just not in the way they think nor for the reasons they may think).
They think I don’t have much life experience because I’m “always in front of a computer”.
Now let’s go to my father’s side of the family:
They think I’ll be a millionaire within the next few decades.
They see me as ambitious, intelligent, and driven.
They believe I can accomplish anything I set my mind to.
They understand my values, goals, and where I’m headed.
They admire my freedom and my travel experiences.
They trust that I know what I’m doing and that I’ll figure it out.
Two completely different perspectives from two sides of my family.
My mother’s side of the family truly are concerned about me and they’re looking out for my best interest.
But they’re missing 95% of the picture.
They don’t realize why I travel overseas and they wouldn’t understand why I’d prefer running my own business as opposed to checking in each morning into a job they perceive as “safe”.
They wouldn’t even believe the experiences I share with them.
They don’t know my story even though they’re convinced they do.
My father’s side, however, listen before they speak or judge. They see my point of view and accept it, fully trusting me to do what’s right for me.
Viewing people one-dimensionally means you’ll miss their redeeming qualities and what makes them interesting.
I have friends who may not have the same morals and values I do, but there are more dimensions to their characters that make them some of my closest friends. If I weighed their entire value as a person on just a single dimension, I wouldn’t have ever decided to keep them in my life.
Don’t be so quick to judge someone and think you have them figured out. Chances are, there are thousands of pieces you’re missing from the story.
Everyone’s stories are rich. Try to find the different dimensions in them.