For When You’re Hurting the Most

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For When You're Hurting the Most

How will life ever be okay again?

You’ve been through a lot and you’re gripping at your heart every night. The pain is the first thing you feel in the morning.

You’re trying to choke back the tears but they win every time.

Nothing is worth celebrating and you wouldn’t dare feign a smile or a chuckle because they do nothing for you.

But one day, something beautiful happens. You wake up and something’s different.

You don’t notice it at first but you didn’t wake up with that same pain. Then it hits you several hours later. Ouch. You grip your heart again and try to hold in the tears.

More time passes. It’s a different season now.

You’ve been waking up for quite a while without feeling that pain. It’s almost time for bed and you realize, as you fall asleep, you can’t remember the last time it hurt. It feels almost like a dream.

Your mind can freely revisit the memories without heartache.

And then you find yourself reflecting and learning from your experience. You grow stronger. You’re wiser. Prepared for the next time around.

You’ve moved on.

You’ve healed and you’re okay even with nothing but time aiding you.

Trust me when I say you’ll be alright. The cycle may repeat itself a few times and you’ll be down and out, but you’ll be rising to fight once more soon enough. You’ll keep falling until one day you find what you’re looking for.

Eventually, you’ll be happier than you ever were before.

Hang in there. Chin up, as they always say. You’ve got time.

Life’s not so bad.

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Vincent Nguyen is the author of Self Stairway. After landing his dream job with Empire Flippers, he dropped out of college and began living a location independent lifestyle (still always drawn to coffee shops though.) Don't worry, he still publishes every Monday and hasn't missed a single week since starting this site in January 2013.

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35 responses to For When You’re Hurting the Most

  1. And the pain makes us stronger everytime :)

  2. This is so true, even if you don’t believe it yet

    • Yup, many people in this situation right now won’t believe it at first. I think this is a post they’ll revisit multiple times over the next few months or even year.

  3. This is so true man. Short, sweet, and simple. I have been through two very tough periods in my life and in the end I healed from them and grew immensely from them and wouldn’t change them for the world. Without suffering there would be no growth.

    • True that, Sebastian! I used to think “I wish X and Y didn’t happen” but it always becomes clearer, with time, that I’ve exponentially grown thanks to certain hardships. Pain’s almost always temporary.

  4. Hey I didnt get my free ebook when I subscribed to your list, its not in my spam, its the The Compact Guide to Charisma, Confidence, and Being Well-Liked. I have had enough confidence to ask the whereabouts of my ebook :) woohoo

  5. I open my e-mail to read any massage just Trying to forget what happened today, then I received your email, it’s made me feel better, thank you so much!

  6. Joel Richardson July 15, 2014 at 2:10 pm

    Wow Vincent greetings from New Zealand, this came at the perfect time!
    I once heard a quote that said Pain is the touch stone of growth, I’ve learnt to embrace it and grow Stronger because its all made me into the man that I am today. :)

    • Pain really does! I look at it with the butterfly effect in mind. What if you’ve never gone through those periods of pain and struggles? Would you be anywhere near the person you are today? Fun stuff to think about. :D

  7. Wonderful! What a joy to read this article! Facing some challenges but things always work out. Thank you!

    • They always do! Or at least we’re all resilient enough to work it out in our heads. It may never “be okay” but you learn to accept it, learn from it, and move on. That’s a beautiful thing about the way our minds work.

  8. You came through clear as a bell on that one. I think you’ll make it ;-)

    Seeing where the pain is coming from makes all the difference.

  9. Naoual Benamar July 15, 2014 at 6:14 pm

    Waw..this come at time..thank you.
    It like if you felt my pain..and you send it to me for a reason..and yes..the first thing that I feel when I wake up is the pain,and nothing ake me happy any more.
    thank you

  10. I am still somewhere in the first third of the writing, but I am resolved to re-make a life for myself and my son. It’s difficult to stay positive, but knowing others are in a similar struggle, and sharing this, makes a difference.

    • People still in the first third of the post are exactly who I’m writing this for. Hopefully, this helps you, even if just by a bit. I wish the best of luck to you and your son.

  11. Thanks for that, it was important for me to hear that.

  12. You sound a lot like a sage Vincent, especially for your age.
    Time is a key to everything in life.

  13. This is my dream, and I work every day to move in the right direction. It’s not always easy and like you said it comes and goes, but it’s sticking around a little longer each time.

    Anxiety, stress, depression all suck, but I truly believe they can be overcome. It’s not easy and it takes a lot of time, energy, and frustration, but it will be worth it in the end.

    Thanks for the post Vincent.

  14. soo soo inspiring.life has taught me alot but the biggest lesson is that time is the healer of every pain.thankyou and may God bless you for reaching out to soo many people who need to hear exactly what you say

  15. Great post, you wise old bastard, you! :D

    Pain is only temporary. Accept everything that comes your way – good or bad. Without the hurt, we cannot seek the pleasure.

    I learned these lessons a lot older than you are now, (totally not jealous).

    I think I enjoy your introspective posts more than the others.. keep it up!

  16. Awwwww Vince, this is such a beautiful article. I’m inspired to carry on. I will print this out and re-read it till I get through. Thank you for sharing : ))

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