How to Be Resilient


How to Be Resilient

Three weeks ago, I wrote about my audition for a TEDx talk.

Sorry to disappoint team #vinceforTEDx (was that ever a thing?) but I didn’t get it.

Without getting into speculation, I’ll just skip ahead and say I was caught off guard. I really thought I had it, although that may have just been my arrogance blindsiding me into celebrating early.

The talk was something I really wanted and I can’t pretend like I’m not disappointed. Such strong desire is a rare feeling for me.

I had poured hours and hours into practicing for the audition. I had even attended a Toastmasters event to solicit feedback.

But here I am, reading my rejection email.

On a more positive note, disappointment isn’t the only emotion I feel at the moment.

I feel inspired again.

Like the flame that pushed me to ignore my fear and audition, there’s still something burning inside.

I’m moving onto something much bigger.

Although I can’t disclose the exact details yet, I’m excited to see how this plays out. I’m going to be taking the biggest risk I’ve ever taken.

And this time, it will mean I give up something that I love in pursuit of something even greater.

I will be giving up stability and security. I’ll be surrendering an ego boost of sorts. I may even be disappointing a lot of people who I care about.

Despite all that, something tells me it’s going to all work out in the end. It will be worth it. Even if it means there are sacrifices in the short-term.

Your Two Post-Failure Options

You only have two options after you fail:

You can pity yourself and kick rocks.

Or you can move onto the next big thing.

For too long now, I’ve had it too good. I’ve forgotten what it feels like to be denied the grand prize.

But perhaps that means I don’t put myself out there enough. Maybe I don’t stand in the line of fire for others to judge as often as I should.

So that’s what I’m going to do. To hell with safety nets and clinging onto what’s comfortable.

2013 was a great year. It brought me Self Stairway and dozens of opportunities that came forth as a result of this very site.

2014 was an even better year. I spent 11 of the 12 months in Southeast Asia. I’ve experienced things that I will continue to dream about for the next several years to come. I’ve met people who literally changed the way I view the world.

2015? Oh, it’s going to be even better. This will be the year I look back and say, “That’s when it all changed. Again.”

It’s going to be the year that defines who I truly am and set a foundation for my future.

Here’s to moving onto the next big thing.

Happy Holidays,

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Vincent Nguyen is the author of Self Stairway and founder of Growth Ninja, a digital marketing agency that specializes in Facebook Ads. Voted "Most Guapo" five years in a row (lost during 6th year to a hand model.)

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15 responses to How to Be Resilient

  1. Here’s to you my friend! You’re awesome 🙂

  2. I don’t know why your posts are so timely!
    Or perhaps it is not such coincidence that we all finding our path through different lives but learning towards the same truths. Our challenges may be as unique as we are and our fears only known by our own minds, but it is so very uplifting to see resilience and fire and passion does not just leave but grows stronger when you have faith in what you are doing.

    I wont be kicking rocks this holiday! (Very tempted to put a rock as my screen saver just to remind myself).

    Here’s to a great 2015.

  3. So this year I too took several risks and listened to my inner voice, lost a few friends because they did not agree with my decisions or maybe not support my journey towards happiness. I had a few unexpected set backs but will never look back or have regrets. I believe 2015 will be my best year ever and I will continue to strive to be the best person I can possibly be!!! You sound like you are on the same path and support you whole heartily Vincent:)

  4. You may not be on TedTalks, but you’re still my biggest inspiration. 🙂

  5. Bro Keep Posting me.Thank you

  6. I wanna say these words about myself too:

    2015? Oh, it’s going to be even better. This will be the year I look back and say, “That’s when it all changed. Again.” It’s going to be the year that defines who I truly am and set a foundation for my future.

    Keep being awesome in 2015 and letting us know, Vincent! xoxo

  7. What a beautiful attitude. You’re an inspiration to us all!

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